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  1. This is so beautiful and needed in this world right now! So many people don’t understand the commitment a marriage really should be to each other.

    I am LDS, and in our church when we believe when we marry in His temple under sacred covenants between Him and our spouse we are married for eternity, here on earth and beyond the grave. The word covenant isn’t really used anymore but it should be. It’s a promise with God that we will fight for whatever it is with all our heart. Isn’t that what marriage is all about? Sticking with each other through the thick and thin, no matter what?

    1. Hi Sunni,

      Thank you so much for taking the time to read the post. You are absolutely correct, covenant is a promise with God and this is often a missing concept of marriage, our devotion to each other AND our devotion to God. Many blessings to you and your family!

  2. “He showed me that when we say “I Do” to the man we pledge our love to, we are saying yes to his weaknesses, his addictions, his failures, his secrets, his dysfunctional family, his pain, his selfish nature, his arrogance and a host of unknowns. We are also saying “I Do” to a person being molded into what God intended for him to be from the moment he was formed within his mother’s womb.”

    POWERFUL words, Janelle! Convicting, powerful words.

    1. Hi Sabrina,

      I so appreciate you taking the time to read my post! I hope it resonated with your heart! I am reminded and convicted daily by these words. They are truly a testament to where we have been and where we are going. Blessings to you!!

  3. This is a great read about marriage, there are so many false information and ideas about what marriage should be and very lillte about how complexe and hard it can be so when the hard times come they hit many people unexpectedly and tear them apart. thanks for sharing.

  4. Marriage always sounds like a fairytale and that’s what the whole media has portrayed. But getting into the covenant part of it is challenging but the most healthy choice we ever make.

  5. I have been sharing these stories with other men so that they can see the other side of things from a woman’s perspective. This testimony has me on the floor ……wow!!!! God bless yall for continuing on and thank you for sharing this!!! I just ran into a brother who shared some deep things concerning his marriage and I encouraged him and his wife to READ THESE POSTS! You all are inspiring others in so many places!!!

    1. It is awesome to see that men are being encouraged through this marriage series! I love that! Thanks for taking the time to read my post! I pray everyone is being inspired by every single woman who has brought her message of endurance here. Be Blessed!!

  6. Oh my goodness, Janelle, what a powerful testimony the Lord has given you through your marriage! I love your thoughts about what we actually are saying “I do” to on our wedding day: all of our spouse’s weaknesses and failures, as well as who he’ll grow into in the future. Powerful perspective! Thank you for sharing!

  7. Wow, truly God was at the center. I love reading how even through the difficulties of marriage, (and man did they have an uphill climb) they remained faithful to their promises, to God and to each other. So raw and real, this is life, this is what fighting looks like. I loved this post. Thank you so much for sharing this.

      1. Hmm. I fully understand the word covenant and the promise they represent. I love the Lord God with all my heart. And I believe in marriage and all that it is about. I am going to state somethings that a lot of people that state “You stay married no matter what” have probably, in most likelihood never experienced. My mother was married to my Dad, who was an alcoholic…an abusive alcoholic. One of my earliest memories is of my dad trying to kill my mother….. he tripped over me or he would have gotten to her. I say this with full knowledge that not all are.like this….but my Mama stayed sooo long because the people of the church told her that her vows we’re forever and she had committed to him forever. Now, I am a believer and follower of Christ…..and I am going to say this once and be done. Be very careful as to what you print as in you accept him for all that he is and will be. Notbofenone moment do I believe that Jesus expected my Mama to stay in such an abusive relationship where he felt like he owned her. I know there are women who are just as abusive. Just be very careful, you have no idea who is reading this and trying to get courage to leave for safety. Or even repeated infidelity.

        1. When we write things like this to encourage women to stay in a marriage, it is understood that we never expect them to stay in an abusive or dangerous situation. On the contrary, we encourage them to leave the abusive situation and find a safe place of protection. A relationship like that is not the kind of marriage that God endorses. Marriage is supposed to represent the relationship between Christ and the Church. When it falls so far short as to be dangerous, then it’s not a real marriage, let alone the covenant that God speaks about.

  8. You guys definitely faced some huge life challenges very early on in your marriage! What a testimony it is that in the end, by the grace of God, you were able to maintain your “I Dos” and the marriage covenant. Going through tough stuff together will come in any marriage–it’s how we handle it that makes a difference.

  9. I love this post. I am in a relationship with a man I love and who loves me. But what about God? We both believe in God, and I have a very personal relationship with God. It’s harder for him. I ask my boyfriend to come to Church with me and watch sermons and read my daily devotional. Because I believe our relationship won’t be successful either just the two of us, but with God at the forefront.

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