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  1. I love your insight out of this situation. I think one of my favorite things you said was, “I woke up.” We can be so focused on the what if’s and the negatives that we tend to be blinded to the blessing. I just loved your perspective and insight.

  2. What a great post! I think it was spot on! In our culture, it’s easy to just throw in the towel when it gets hard. This line. “If you’re in a crossroads in your marriage, remember if there’s just a bit of oxygen or love there’s still time to make the most of your marriage.” I wish more people looked at it like this!

  3. We often want someone to blame when things go wrong rather than realizing that what happened happened, and if we ask God what to do next, He will show us what to do one step at a time to correct the situation.

  4. Oh man, that’s definitely a scary thing to wake up to! Accidentally leaving the stove on too long is one of my fears–but it’s good that from this scary experience you were able to open your eyes to a larger concept in marriage!

    1. Some of the things I am most scared have been happening, and I’ve survived each of them. I am grateful God is breaking those fears so I can fully embrace the life He has given me. Each time I have definitely learned a lesson like with the hot dogs. 🙂

  5. Love this! It always amazes me how God can use different things in our lives to teach us the lessons we need to learn. I’ll have to remember “The things we can see aren’t always what destroys, but the things we can’t see tend to do the most damage.” This speaks so much truth, especially in my marriage.

  6. This is one of my favorite posts that I’ve read about marriage! My husband seems near-perfect almost all the time, so when he’s not I tend to be Maegantoo harsh about his humanity. We all make mistakes. Great reminder that even a marriage that seems great still needs constant nourishing and protecting.

    1. Thanks, Maegan! I am glad God brought that story to mind when I was praying about what to write.

      I agree. We can’t afford to become to comfortable in our marriages that we are not intentionally tended to them.

  7. Remembering my husband’s humanity is a biggie for me. I always jump to blame, but then when I remember his feelings and that everyone makes mistakes, AND that I know he is trying even when he fails, I come to realize that I need to give more grace.

    1. This is hard. It’s easy for us to see the “right” way to do something, but we have to be careful not to get in our husband’s way to grow.

  8. that one is key… seeing the humanity in our spouses. I am often reminded that he’s not perfect – and if he were he wouldn’t have married me 😉 Anyway – great perspective shift!

  9. Latonya, this is so good and SO true! I have found myself at this same place–angry with my husband for being human. Thank you so much for sharing your mini-marriage lesson!

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