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  1. This is so important regardless of how long you have been married. I was blessed that my husband and I had GREAT premarital counseling. We spent a lot of time on expectations. It is awesome you keep it in your Bible. #trekkingthru

  2. Excellent article. “Clarifying Our Expectations” – this is key! Even after 3 decades of marriage I realize I still need to take a good hard look at my own expectations, and realize that some of them are not realistic and some do not fit with my husband’s.
    So glad you shared this past week at our Encouraging Hearts & Home blog hop!

  3. We’ve just recently had a similar talk as our marriage needed to adapt to parenthood. I think it’s importance to keep the conversation line open for big life changes too as our expectations may change down the line

  4. We didn’t talk about this before we got married but as we’ve grown in our marriage, our conversations have too. We married really young so we both had a lot of growing to do!

  5. My husband and I have a very similar conversation before we got married. Both of our parents divorced so we knew there were aspects of their marriages that we wanted to do different. This is a conversation that we continue to revisit and revise the more emotionally and spiritually mature we become.

    1. I think it is awesome that you continue to have the conversation regarding expectations. In different seasons of your marriage, things change. And while we sometimes go through the motions of thinking we know, it is really important to ask to avoid the potential of any misunderstandings.

  6. This post is extremely helpful as a newlywed. I definitely relate to the importance of talking, knowing, having expectations laid on the table. I also found it interesting how you included how “our expectations” are built from the different experiences of our lives. I find that so true! It amazes me how much my parent’s way of things have impacted me.

    Take care,
    Dianne

  7. What a wonderful post, especially for those not yet married! I’ve been married 15 years and I know that, at times, my expectations (that weren’t communicated) have made me miserable and frustrated with my marriage. Thankfully, God has worked on my heart and now I do try to communicated my expectations (and then let them go if they go unmet) but I’ve never actually thought about talking about our expectations together so we know what each of ours are.

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